Sorry Old Friends I’ve become a Facebook Snob

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Inviting friends to try new Facebook Messaging system
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What’s happened to our friends who aren’t on Facebook?  I often wonder, and it seems as though I’ve just lost track of them.  It used to be that we would keep in contact with our rolodex of friends through our rolodex.  Call, catch up, sometimes the calls would be too frequent and others not frequent enough.  You’d catch up on what was going on in each other’s lives.  Some calls would be short and sweet others would last too long.

Today we only have to scan our Facebook wall to see what our friends are up to, share the joy and sorrow that they experience in life.  We’re also able to expand our rolodex of friends, people that we wouldn’t necessarily have a phone conversation with but we care enough to see how they are doing.

We have friends who are active, we have friends who are too active, and then we all have our voyeur friends.  Those who rarely make a post, but they know that I went to the game last Saturday.  Through all of this over the past 3 years I have seemed to have grown closer to all my Facebook friends, while the people are felt fairly close to that aren’t on Facebook have fallen off my radar.

Facebook to me is a real time saver as well as a huge money saver by not having to have the maximum minutes on my cell plan.  There are times when someone I haven’t bumped into in a while will pop into my head and I’ll wonder what he’s or she is up to, then it goes away because they’re not on Facebook.  I’m wondering if I’m becoming a Facebook snob?  I feel like not on Facebook then I don’t have the time for you.  I like to multitask, follow up and catch up with my friends on my time, on my wall.


Mike Frey

Prior to co-founding Paradux Media Group Mike spent more than 15 years in the world of marketing and advertising. During that time working with hundreds of locally owned businesses he developed an appreciation for minimizing client’s dollars while maximizing tangible results for those clients.

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  1. Tom says

    Interesting post. My big dilemma right now is – at 301 friends – fewer than 25% are actually posting. EVER!

    Would it be snobbish to unfriend them until they decide to adopt Facebook for real? Or is it “no harm, no foul” by keeping them there, even though they don’t post, don’t interact and basically don’t “get” Facebook?

    I’m of the mind to de-friend, but I keep holding off. I’d like my network to shrink because it’s no fun being “friends” with someone who’s not really friendly.

    Food for thought anyway. Thanks for the post.

    • Mike Frey says

      Thanks for the comment Tom. My percentage of friends who actively post is probably similar to yours. I find a lot of people who just read and don’t contribute with posts do come in with the occasional like, I usually have to do a double take and go oh ya I remember you. I do find that a lot of people who rarely contribute with posts read a lot of my blogs. I have people that I forget that we’re even friends because they don’t post comment to me on a blog that I wrote, or will say I really liked that restaurant too. So while they don’t contribute directly with posts they may be contributing in other ways. again thank you very much for the read and the contribution!

  2. Ernest Falconer says

    I know that it is to each their own, and sometimes I feel bad judging people because they don’t have facebook, but come on people get with the times. I mean the people who refuse to get facebook always have their reasons why they won’t get it. Usually ignorant reasons that make no sense. I mean really you can’t knock it till you try.. People have the strangest reasons that they won’t join facebook and think they make sense…Imagine when the phone was invented the last person who refused to get it, telling people “It’s just not personal, I’d rather write a letter.”
    It was more personal, and actually brings people together better than they could before as facebook does today.
    Technology is a tool that allows us to grow and change for the positive…Don’t be afraid, rather grow with the times and embrace technology not as a scary platform, but as just another tool to increase your quality of life.

    Thanks for sharing,
    Ernest Falconer

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